Posted: April 13, 2015 in Life


What do you think of when you hear the word…Relationship?  Do you think of marriage, boyfriend/girlfriend, friendship, family, etc?  There are many different views of relationships, but I am referring to one Relationship in particular.  Marriage.  Even the relationships that are just starting to get to know each other.  But, I will be mainly talking about husbands and wives; but this goes to anyone dating also.


Ephesians 5:28- “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.  He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”


In today’s world we are taught that when things go wrong in a relationship that you can just get rid of this one and get a “newer model”.  But if you view this way in your relationship; you do not understand the significant bond of a husband and wife.  Marriage is a bond between one another.  You become one.  Check out these two scenarios that I read in the Love Dare book.  Which I highly recommend to all marriages.

“A man’s older car begins having serious trouble, so he takes it to a mechanic.  After an assessment is made, he is told it will need a complete overhaul, which would tax his limited budget.  Because of the expensive repairs, he determines to get rid of the car and spend his funds on a new vehicle.  Seems reasonable, right?”

“Another man, an engineer, accidentally crushes his hand in a piece of equipment.  He rushes to the hospital and has it x-rayed, finding that numerous bones are broken.  Although frustrated and in pain, he willingly uses his savings to have it doctored and placed in a cast, then gingerly nurses it back to health over the following months.  This, too, probably seems reasonable to you also, right?”


Our culture today is more familiar with leaning towards the first scenario in a marriage.  Would you cut off your hand if it was injured?  No, you would do everything you could; no matter the cost to fix your frustration and pain.  This is exactly how we should look at our marriage.  The parts of our own body is priceless and so should our marriage.

Ephesians 5:29- “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”

We cherish our own bodies.  We make sure that our body is fed and taken care of.  We must treat our spouse the same way.  When you show love to your spouse, you are showing love to Yourself.   Think about this for a second..  You walk in the door from work, your spouse gives you and hug and kiss, asks you how your day was, and has supper ready on the table.  You lash out at your spouse because you have had a bad day and you just want to be left alone.  And then what happens?  You are arguing the rest of the evening.

Now, let’s take out the lashing out.. you sit down and thank your spouse for the meal that they prepared.  You simply tell your spouse you had an awful day and just want to relax tonight.  You talk about what went wrong and next thing you know your spouse is pampering you for the rest of the night.

Which story do you want to be?  We need to treat each other like we are talking to ourselves.  Take care of each others bodies as you would want to be taken care of.  How do you treat your spouse’s physical body?  Do you cherish it as your own?  Do you treat it with respect and tenderness?  Do you take pleasure for who they are?  Or have you been making them feel like a fool or embarrassed?


Don’t let this world change your focus of your marriage.   Don’t compare it to this culture.  We should treat each other for God’s purpose.  Not our own selfish purpose.  Show the love of two imperfect people who choose to love each other regardless of how this world sees things.

Treat each other well.  Speak HIGHLY of each other to everyone.  And remember to always Nourish, Cherish, and Respect the love of your life.


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