Want NO PART of Fifty Shades of Grey

Posted: February 9, 2015 in Uncategorized


I really did not want to write about this, but with it being ALL OVER MY SOCIAL MEDIA, I can’t stand it. I have got to get this off my chest. About a week ago my 15 year old daughter came home from school telling me that one of her FIFTEEN YEAR OLD friends is going to see this fifty shades of grey movie. WHAT? I SAID I DON’T EVEN THINK SO!! My daughter said that she has no desire to even watch it. (I guess me fussing about it for so long has left an impact on her. YAY for me!) But, her friend is 15!!!!!!! And her mom even said it is ok to watch!!! WHAT!!!!!?????? Did I miss something??


All I have been seeing is Fifty Shades of Grey. I’ve seen Facebook friends post that they can’t wait to see this movie. I have had a friend that was told it was a good Christian book and asked me if I knew anything about it. (I straight up told her what I thought.) She was in shock as to her “Christian” friend even told her it was in fact a good Christian book. So to enlighten you on my thoughts, I am going to share with you some reasons why I am NOT reading nor watching Fifty Shades of Grey and instead watching another movie.

Fifty Shades of Grey is categorized as fiction, erotic fiction. One dictionary states erotic as writing, pictures, or film which has “no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire.”

According to God, the inventor of sexuality, there is only one person who should stimulate a sexual desire in me and that is my husband. If God desires me to only be aroused by my husband than any other stimulation would be wrong. Jesus said, “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, thou shalt not commit adultery:  But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”  This is also true to women who look at (or read about) a man. I personally think erotica is sinful, plain and simple. This should be enough to convince you but I know there is a lot of people that need more so…


This picture annoys me because I have heard these conversations all the time from women.  So women can do whatever and men can’t?  Why do you think the men do it? Women have some respect and dignity toward your man!

 How does it make you feel when your man looks or reads about porn? Can you honestly sit there and let your man enjoy getting aroused by another woman? It hurts my heart just to think of that as a possibility. Us women have a hard enough time with self-esteem issues without trying to compare themselves to “perfection” created by a professional makeup artist, photo shop, etc. And your husband/fiancé/boyfriend doesn’t deserve to be compared to a false idea of manhood either. If you don’t like being compared to the false women; don’t do it to your man!!

The Bible clearly says that lust is harmful and warns us to flee from it. (Ephesians 5:3, Galatians 5:16, Psalms 101:3) Not surprisingly, neuroscientists warn us about effects that lust, erotica, and pornography have on the human brain and body. Over time the human body becomes conditioned to self-gratification. ARE YOU UNDERSTANDING THIS?? These effects are physiological. In the beginning a little erotica may give you a desire for your spouse but over time it will turn sex into a self-satisfying criteria. If you associate arousal with your spouse, their kiss, their scent, over time, will turn you on. However, if you open your focus to an endless chance of sexual images, that is what it will take to turn you on. You’ll become less interested in real sex with your husband. The fact of the matter is, erotica robs you of the pleasure real sex can bring.


The Bible exhorts us to be intentional about controlling our thoughts of life, because we are what we think! Too often we fail to remember that our minds and hearts are programmed by what we listen to, watch and read. Romans 12:2 cautions us “…be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” II Cor. 10:5 says, “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;”

We should be hating sin the way God hates sin. He hates sin because it is contrary to HIS perfect and holy nature. Sin causes separation between ourselves and GOD. And that separation has SERIOUS CONSEQUENCE: damnation in Hell, eternally separated from God. Jesus suffered for your sins on the cross so you wouldn’t have to. He died and rose again so that you can be forgiven from your sins!! God is not trying to keep you from doing good things but HE wants what is best for your life. Do you really think that this movie/books, that has been called “soft porn” and filled with erotica, is best for you? I DON’T THINK SO.

Now I am all about spicy and exciting sex-life WITHIN IN MY MARRIAGE!! All of us humans have a void in us. We have a desire to fill that void. The only thing that can fill that void is GOD. He is the void in our soul that only God Himself can fill.

The movie that I will be watching will be in the next blog…. Stay tuned!!!


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