Dating or not to date!?

Posted: September 30, 2014 in Life

This is something on my heart today.  Whether you are dating or not; I read up on some things in the bible.  I am married and God spoke to me several times when I was divorced and a single mom for 4 years.  I didn’t listen until my husband came into my life.  So, I am writing this to help others if you are dating or may have a teen that could be starting to date soon.

First, I want to say this is my opinion and I focused on scripture.  So please,  leave a comment; love to hear feedback.

God’s perspective on dating!  Let’s start with a few scriptures of course.

Genesis 2:24- Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Proverbs 4:23- Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7- Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.  It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 

These verses above can go along with your friendships as well; not just finding the right guy/girl.  But read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 again.  Love is patient! Love is kind!  Love does NOT envy! Love is NOT boastful!  Love is NOT arrogant! Love is NOT rude! Love is NOT irritable!  Does your “friends” values hold up with these verses?  Are you patient and kind to one another?  Are you envious of one another?  Do you boast about one another or to each other?  Go through the characteristics to see where your relationship is measuring up.


God is very clear about this!  Let me give you a couple scriptures on this…

Deuteronomy 7:3-4 You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods.  Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.

2 Corinthians 6:14- Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.  For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness?  Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 

There is a lot of Christian individuals that try and be in a relationship with someone that is not a believer to try and convert them.  But, God specifically says to not be involved.  This will just set your relationship up for a disaster.  Why would you want to get emotionally involved with someone you should not marry?  You can be friends, but we should not date non-believers.  We should only date those who share our own beliefs.  With that said the bible says nothing about dating a different race.  That is the world feeding our mind with false teachings.  You are going to find struggles than you find joy.  Why do you think they call it a “broken heart”? God understands a broken heart. He knows relationships are hard without Him.  God understands the power in love and the damage a broken heart can do.  This is why God gave us one person to be with.  He gave us the power of prayer.  There is no need to date a lot of people- God has already provided us with the one person who will complete us.  Don’t get discouraged if you have not met the “right one”.  God has the right time and the right person who will come along.  We just have to be patient like He tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:4.

This is why it is important for Christians to really pray, know their hearts, and listen to God when they decide to date.  No one ever wants to go through a divorce.  It is the hardest thing to do.  If I knew what I know now, I would not have done my selfish ways of love.  I would be able to see my son everyday.  I don’t wish this on anyone.  You don’t understand how it feels until you are in the situation; to see other families together and not missing things the kids are involved in or do.  Always remember to PRAY, KNOW THEIR HEART, and LISTEN TO GOD!!


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