Let’s Talk!

Posted: September 9, 2014 in Life

Do you lack communication in your home?  Do you have a blended family that sometimes it is just hard to talk to each other?  Or maybe there is something another person does that you don’t understand why they do it, but don’t know how to ask without either hurting their feelings or making them upset?

WELCOME to our home!!  We are a wonderful blended family with three amazing kids.  Ages 14 (girl-Karen), 10 (boy-A.J.), and 8 (girl-Brooklyn).  The two princesses are my husbands (Josh), and the prince would be my own (Tara).  Every one of us has different personalities.

Josh-Quiet, hard hearted, people reader, loves to read, have to EARN his trust, not a morning person.

Tara– VERY OUTGOING, Soft Hearted, Trusts too easily, a morning person, OCD with cleaning/organizing.

Karen– Not a morning person, to herself, not outgoing, likes to read.

A.J. – LOUD, VERY OUTGOING, ENERGETIC, soft hearted, a morning person.

Brooklyn– Not a morning person, has to warm up to you, soft hearted.

 

As you can tell by some of our personalities which child belongs to whom? HA HA!! So with our different vibrations going through our home, we sometimes get irritated with one another. (Especially A.J. and I being morning people and extremely outgoing.) But, for the most part we are always getting along with one another. The girls always say it is hard to stay mad at A.J. because he starts acting goofy. Then they forget why they were mad at him in the first place. (That boy needs to be in theatre!!) There is never a dull moment. Except when there is communication that goes deeper than, “So, how did you like that movie?” That is when things get a little tricky. So, instead of all of us keeping things bottled up and exploding one day; I came up with a solution…

We write to each other!

I wanted to make it special so it would encourage everyone to do this. I went to hobby lobby and at first I was looking for small mailboxes, but I ran into treasure chests. The smaller chests were $2.99 and the larger ones were $3.99. I decided to buy 3 little ones for the kids and 2 larger ones for us parents. And the bonus for finding these treasures; it was cheaper than the mailboxes I was looking for. YAY for me!! And the pocket book wasn’t hurting either.  Below is the treasure chests that I purchased.

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Now, What do you think the bible says about communication?  The two most important types of communication are between man and God and between human beings. Communication is more than just our ability to talk, but also to listen. (A lot of people have a hard time with that word in bold.)  As we communicate with God, the first part of that communication is listening. God’s primary ways of communication with us are through His Word (Romans 10:17) and by the Holy Spirit (John 14:16). God speaks to all believers through the Bible, which is all we need to equip us for the Christian life (2Timothy 3:16).In order to fully understand God’s communication with us, we must be diligent to read, study, memorize and meditate on His Word. Trying to shortcut this process by seeking extra-biblical revelations or “hearing” God’s voice is not only unscriptural, but opens us up to the deception of our own fallen nature Jeremiah 17:9;Proverbs 3:5-6 or worse, the deception of demons who are always looking for inroads into our minds 1 Peter 5:8. And the final blow to our brain my favorite book James 1:19 says, “Be slow to speak, quick to listen, slow to anger.”
So, as you see communication in anyway is important.  And it is to God!

 

I explained to everyone what we were going to use these for. And that communication is a huge key to any relationship. We broke out the paints and went to town.

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My husband even got involved!! He is such a trooper!! I love him!!

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It was fun sitting around and seeing the excitement in everyone’s eyes. After the treasures were all painted and dry; I put them up on the bar in the kitchen so we see them and are reminded to jot a little note to someone. Here are the pictures of our finished projects:

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  I recommend doing this even if you don’t lack communication. Everyone likes getting little notes and such. Make it a new tradition for your family. Just a different way to show you care and that you thought of one another that day. I love what my husband put at the bottom of his. “Real treasures are in the heart” what better way to describe what these treasure boxes will do for our family?

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